How is your brain tuned? ðŸ§
Gap or Gain Mindset ?
So Gap mindset looks like this:
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Start ⇔ Achieved ⇔ Ideal
Measure
Gain Mindset looks like this:
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Start ⇔ Achieved ⇔ Ideal Measure
As you can see , Gap mindset , leads to frustration as we keep measuring against ideal
And Ideal the goalpost, keeps changing!
On other hand Gain mindset leads to confidence!
Measure your current self against former self!
Chance is what you are handed over
Choice is what you do with it
How do you play a game of dice?
The dice is indifferent - to you or another
How do I know what is going to fall?
To use with proper care and skill - whatever does fall
that is my business!
One tool that helps is the decision making framework :
Choice - Chance table : please read this below
https://hbr.org/1964/07/decision-trees-for-decision-making
This is a fantastic tool to handle the chance effects , if not fully, but at least with confidence!
Being Rich, Healthy and Fit are effects.
Falling in love with effects won't get them
you need to start working on the cause(s)
Keith J Cunningham, The Road less Stupid
If you are not getting the outcome then the cause
you are not working upon the right causes
For example, say body weight reduction is the desired outcome:
Stepping on the bathroom scale is KPI (key performance indicator) lagging metric
KPI helps in knowing where you are:
but you need to know what will impact your weight?
In case of weight : it is diet and exercise -
actual causes that impact will impact weight reduction
so start measuring diet consumption - Calorie input
and Physical exercise - Calorie burnt
measure the causes not the effects
to give calculus analogy :
y = f(x) ; weight = f(diet, exercise)
Great performers focus on causes :
fantastic performers focus on rate of causes : dx/dt :
improve the rate of performance!
Business is not bath-robe! One size does not fit all!!!
Keith J Cunningham
The Road less Stupid
When you are faced with a situation, do not look for stop-gap
solution - there is not any!
so what you need to do is follow
Point A to Point B approach
What is the gap ?
What is the obstacle?
Problem solving is about 80% diagnosis and discovery-
So don't outsource that
Make you and your teams think through that!
Separate the problem from the symptom
The Road less Stupid
Keith J Cunningham
Many of us confuse problem with the symptom;
For ex., In fitness , one would say , I am overweight / underweight;
but that is a symptom - gap
what is the problem?
It could be over-eating, lack of exercise or hormonal issue
That is the problem - we need to get to the root-cause
Gap is not the problem!
For example , you need to "kick a can" from point A to Point B
current state to future state!
But, there is an obstacle that is the hurdle between point A and Point B
Now that is the problem!
Another example:
Think of the Steeple-chase race: The finish line is not the problem;
It is just the gap from Start to the Finish!
The obstacles and water puddles in between are the problem!
to get to the problem: you can ask the questions below
1. What are the possible reasons I am noticing this symptom?
2. What is not happening, if it happens will narrow the gap?
3. What is happening, if it does not happen, would cause gap to disappear?
Dont confuse the gap with the problem
symptom with the root cause!
The Road less stupid
pg. 64: Keith J Cunningham
In thinking time , don't put statements
as then the mind will trick itself into a fact
and solution may not be forthcoming
Instead pose a thinking question towards improvement:
Ex., : Our profits suck ...is a wrong way to put it!
even asking : How did I land into low profit? or
How can Improve it along the way?
these are also wrong questions!!!
rather : ask yourself :
How can I generate an additional profit of @20K per month?
because : a great question has 3 characteristics:
1. Provides insight to the problem that needs addressing
2. Simplifies the problem to make it solvable
3. Provides ideas for ample number of choices to solve or improve the situation!
The Road less stupid
Keith J Cunningham
Dumb tax can be defined as the loss(es) incurred due to decisions made
with erroneous assumptions and emotional reasons;
Why to avoid dumb tax?
In life you don't need to be the smartest,
you can simply go ahead, if you just avoid dumb taxes;
So how to avoid dumb tax?
Set aside 30 to 45 minutes of thinking time:
with uninterrupted concentration where
you try to answer your pressing questions
Quick No , Long Yeah
Daniel Kahneman, the Nobel Prize-winning psychologist, has a rule where he never says yes to anything on the spot.
People-pleasing had him making too many commitments. He says something to the effect of: "Thanks for the invite. I don't say yes to anything on the spot, but I'll let you know if I'm interested." Turning the choice into a rule lowers the pain of rejection for others and makes the decision easy for you as well.Understanding Suffering
Book of Life
Can I understand suffering?
That should be my problem
Not how to be happy
I am happy when I am not suffering
But the moment I am conscious of it
It is not happiness
So I must understand
What is suffering?
Can I understand what is suffering when a part of my mind
Is running away seeking happiness
Seeking a way out of this misery?
So must I not ,if am to understand this suffering
Be completely one with it , not reject it not justify it
Nit condemn it not compare it
But completely be with it
And understand it?
My notes;
This is classic JK ; There is no antidote;
Alternate to a fact
No duality
Anti-that
Rather to deal with the issue straightforward
Face the fact!
Fact is I am suffering , miserable
But I then shall need to face it rather than run away!
Contentment
Book of Life
We must understand the problem of striving-
If we can understand the significance of effort-
Then we can translate into action in our daily life-
Doe not effort mean to change
What is into what is not?
Or what should be to what it should become?
We are consistently escaping from what is to transform or modify it
He who is truly content is her who understands what is
True contentment lies not if few or many possessions-
But in understanding the whole significance of What is
Best of Ryan Holiday Podcasts
You have to be careful about to what and whom you’re giving the best part of your day!
The secret to happiness is work worth doing
Ask for a feedback - on 0 to 10 Scale
If the conditions are always perfect, the average 12-year old
Can do my job
The problems is that those days are very seldom
Can you still show up and perform
When those conditions are’nt perfect?
Joy is here ,Happiness is here
Why do I need to wait for it
Some other day, Some other place
Its right here ,Its right now!
If I am present and alive-
and conscious
I can feel that Joy is here and now!
If I am conscious enough
of pendulum swing of mind - backwards and forwards
to the past and the future
If i can stick my conscious to
the present hour, minute and second-
Then I may feel that Joy is here
Happiness is here!
As Thoreau in Walden states:
― Henry David Thoreau, Walden
Happiness
Book of Life
At the center of it all, there is the “me”
-the “me” that is enjoying
That wants more happiness
That searches
That longs for more happiness
It is only when “the me” in all subtle forms
Comes to an end that there is a state of bliss
That cannot be sought after
An ecstasy, a real joy without pain,
Without corruption
I think there come a ‘creative happiness’
That is not “yours” or “mine”
That creative happiness is like sunshine
If you want to keep sunshine to yourself
It is no longer the clear,warm,life-giving sun!!!
Similarly if you want happiness ,because you are suffering
Then that is merely a reaction
But when the mind can go beyond ,there there is a happiness
That is not of the mind!
My notes:
Next time, when I say to myself, “I want to be happy” -
Then I need to look for the “me” in that statement
The selfishness - in it - that want for happiness
Which is not for sharing with all - but to myself only-
In that scenario - there is only corruption
Not happiness!
Asanas are different from exercise
Yoga Guru - Dinesh Kumar
Exercise can become a movement of the body alone;
In Asanas, you need to coordinate your breathing
-Inhale and Exhale
along with Body movement;
In yoga,
Even if you do not get the full movement - posture
That is fine,
As long as you coordinate breathing
with the body movement!
Source : James Clear
You must cultivate activities that you love
You must discover work that you do-
not for its utility , but for itself
whether it succeeds or not
whether you are praised for it or not
whether you are loved and rewarded for it or not-
whether people know about it and are grateful for it or not-
How many activities can you count in your life
that you engage in simply because-
they delight you and grip your soul?
Find them out , cultivate them,
for they are your passport to
freedom and to love!
This above text resonates with below text from the TV series:
You say Amateur as if it was a dirty word.
Amateur comes from the Latin word - Amare-
Which means to Love -
To do things for the love of it !
My notes:
To do a thing, just for the love of it
And for no other benefits of Utility!
That's what you call the highest form of motivation !
Courtesy: @DavidSenra : twitter.com
1. Hire Talent as found ,not as needed
2. Taste is as rare as Unicorn (Develop Taste)
3. Your employees should describe you as "easy to understand"
4. If you're not early you're late
5. Master the terse memo
6. Read Voraciously
7. Quality over feelings
8. Build up your entire Industry and you rise automatically!
9. Don't try to handle stress - learn to enjoy it - (Eustress!)
10. Money comes as a result of service
11. Talent routinely makes the mistake of being self-absorbed , instead of being of service
12. The story of father is embedded in the daughter!
Let a thought 💠flower 🌸!!!
Jiddu Krishnamurti
Book of Life : pg.155
To let a thought flower 🌸 requires attention
and not concentration
What mean by the flowering of thought ðŸ’
Is to give freedom to see what happens,
What takes place in your thoughts, in your feelings
Anything that flowers must have freedom
must have light
it cannot be restricted!
you cannot put any value on it!
you cannot say :
this is right that is wrong !
This should be and that should not be !
thereby limiting the flowering of thought!
Therefore if you go into this deeply
you will find that this flowering of thought 💠is
the ending of thought ðŸ’!!!
Differentiate ⇔ Integrate