Envy

 Source : Lawrence Yeo : 

Envy is inversely correlated with self-examination! 

The less you know yourself

the more you look at others

to get an idea of your worth! 

But the more you delve into who you are,

the less you seek from others,

and the dissolution of envy begins! 

Source : Shreyas Joshi

"Say you are invited by your friend to his house-warming party,

whom you went to college with - now lives in a million-dollar mansion-

the same fellow whom you did not think much of! 

On the drive back, you ask yourself " Where did I go wrong ?"

and start telling yourself : " I want this friend's life - mansion, zip-code and prestige"

and make an unintended choice ;

My Friend, Envy has crept in to you , due to discontent resulting from unintended choice(s);

This happens because : we forgot to do any inner work to get to a place of fulfillment and tranquility!

So what to do to beat Envy (every time)

First : Try to catch yourself when you get into envy trap;

Ask yourself the question: "This next thing I am aiming for - 

Is this the right one to give me happiness that I seek? 

or Am I falling for the "Shiny object" syndrome ? 

That leads us to the second question: Self-examination:

"We are not who we are"

My super-powers - special talents

we don't understand our essence;

and so we look outside of us 

we look at others

so the the key to do then is :

To understand what makes you special

what your super-powers are 

and then devote yourself to Excellence and flow in that ;

Basically, we recognize that we are committing ourselves to the craft 

that we can greet at and that we are getting world-class there whatever that means for you!

so when you do that - you have changed the reference frame :

Its not about :  "Oh I wish I had what they have"

but all about : " I now have something that nobody else does,

and when you reach that self-understanding of committing to the excellence to that craft

you reach a flow- and whatever play this envy crops up :

you tell yourself : " Let them play their game ; I will play mine"